In Boys will be … Girls: Part 1 of 2, I took a broad brush approach to write about cross-dressing, the associated attitudes to it, and common misconceptions.
In this second half of my article, I’d like to explore sexuality, but not the straightforward boy and girl. Heterosexual attraction is basic, natural and accepted, so there’s no need for discussion. Let’s look at why two people of the same gender get their act together, or there is a possibility …
It would be foolhardy to investigate same-sex couples who have chosen to exist in such a relationship. Gay couples of either gender can be as steadfast in their relationship as any heterosexual pairing. Nor am I interested in talking about those who recognise they are bi-sexual–they already know they enjoy sex with either their gender or the opposite.
I’m not interested in the settled couples here, I’d like readers to consider those on the fence … the bi-curious, sometimes referred to simply as ‘curious’.
How Curious are You?
Most people who regard themselves as straight-as-a-dye sexually, will either mentally switch off now, or at some stage during this second part of my Boys will be … Girls, article.
Wherever you are on the sliding (or well-lubricated) sexual scale, I hope you read through to the end. I never take the moral high ground, and therefore don’t preach on any subject. In this case, we are dealing with an area of the human psyche which is developed over many years. For some, I’ve no doubt there is no middle ground—their attitude is resolute.
Remember, we’re not suggesting that you might or might not be gay—we’re thinking about people who are publicly heterosexual, but inside are ‘bi-curious’.
I think the way forward is to tackle the theory from two angles and not two genders.
Have you ever had those peculiar notions?
Honesty must be the prevailing trait here and it will demonstrate the quality of your ‘word’. I will thank you in advance for admitting your position to yourself, and here and now, although nobody else will know.
Whatever gender you are, if you admit being ‘curious’ you’ve given anything from a little to a lot of serious thought about having a sexual experience with a person of the same (natural) gender. Have you wondered about how you’d react to the offer of such a coupling? Has it crossed your mind that you might start willingly, but crumble in the cold light of day and say, no—sorry? Perhaps you’ve actually imagined yourself with a particular person? Would your worries be more associated with embarrassment, hygiene, or would it be the moral aspect—it’s kinky after all; isn’t it? Whatever.
There are too many questions that could be considered, and it would be foolish for me to attempt to list all of them here, but my aim is to suggest that the idea passes through everybody’s mind at some stage in their lives.
Are you one of the, ‘not me—I’m straight—always have been—always will be’ types?
Has somebody else had those peculiar notions?
No matter your age, think about your life from your earliest childhood memories. Don’t cheat and block out vague recollections—show some integrity and be honest, after all, it’s only with yourself.
Think back to those school days from the earliest until you left education, whether it be at secondary school or university. Even if you didn’t prompt the attention, was there ever a ‘friend’ who said, did, or hinted that they might like to be closer?
It might have been one small incident, and you’ve told yourself it didn’t happen.
Okay, so you’ve had a good think back and nothing is creeping through the mists of time.
What about those times when you’ve been under the influence?
Has one of your friends been eager to help you get undressed, or helped you to bed?
What about extreme circumstances?
Look at your life now and the people who populate it—and still consider your own gender.
Have you never in your teenage or adult life wondered what you’d feel like if you were stranded on a tropical island, but the only other person was somebody of your gender?
If you haven’t thought about it—please, try it now.
Have you ever wondered how life might be for you if somehow you landed in prison?
If not—please, consider it now.
How about combining the two halves of this article?
If those naughty and improbable thoughts crossed your mind, regarding getting together with a member of your own sexual gender, would you find it more acceptable if one of you ‘dressed’ appropriately as the opposite sex?
Okay, we’ll suggest the answer to the question was ‘yes’ and if one person was made-up and dressed as the opposite sex—would you prefer it to be you, or your sexual partner? Of course, we have to consider that your partner might be bi-sexual, curious, or even have a little experience and want to go further.
Open your mind, and let your imagination run riot. If reading either or both of these articles has caused you the slightest arousal, you’re not kinky—you’re normal, but you’re curious. Of course, you might not be curious–you might already recognise that your are gay, or bi-sexual.
This two-part article has been particularly for you if you’re one of those I mentioned in the first part of my article—the lovely folk who’ve been in touch to ask why I write erotica, and on the topics I choose.
Crossdressing and the various reasons for it are a treasure-trove for the creative writer, and now hopefully you’ll see that sexual orientation and curiosity are in the same league—a wonderland of ideas.
Thank you for reading, and as always, comments are welcome.