Boys will be … Girls: Part 1 of 2

Okay, so I’m not a household name with regard to my creative writing in the erotica genre, but I have had a few anonymous messages, asking why I write in this area. If those who’ve asked the questions are among the handful of followers of this blog/website, this article and the next one are for you.

You can use your name in messages—I won’t bite—unless you’d like me to ….


In our modern world, I find it peculiar that the female gender may dress completely in what is apparently male attire, but if you find a man (of whatever age) wearing an item which is usually associated with the female of the species … funny looks and whispered questions abound.

In some gay relationships where it is a female couple, it is on occasion easy to distinguish their roles because not only does the ‘masculine’ partner have an appropriately ‘un-feminine’ hairstyle, they will wear trousers or jeans, tops which are unflattering (for a female), and sometimes more robust footwear.

Yes, there are the gay female couples out there who look like two regular friends, dressed in similar feminine outfits, but their sexual preferences would be impossible to determine unless they started kissing passionately in public.

Women who dress in male attire are not openly referred to by their preference for clothes—crossdressers, but will quickly be labelled by many people as any one of a number of derogatory terms.

If we take this observation to the opposite side of the gender scale, I find it peculiar that men who wear even one item of feminine clothing are labelled as crossdressers, or perverts, before anything else about them is considered. Many movies have now used the ‘women’s underwear under the business suit’ theme, which must be disconcerting to a large number of businessmen who commute daily and work in a suit.

Men who crossdress in full costume and wear makeup are immediately assumed to be gay, but in reality, this will not be the case for many. Okay, what may have started as a fetish for a particular garment may have developed and then the situation has evolved to encompass much more, but it doesn’t mean they prefer sex with men. It’s not something for the general public to be overly concerned about. It’s harmless.

Yes, a fetish could be dangerous—if it involved caressing the sexual organs and simultaneously squeezing the trigger of a loaded automatic weapon.

Why do I find the phrase ‘crossdressing’ an interesting area of conjecture?

When gay couples (of the male variety) are seen together, I can’t remember ever seeing one of a pair dressed as a woman. Yes, once again in movies we catch the odd scene where the powerful man has a crossdressed male partner, but I’ve noticed this is usually promoted as a secret ‘deviation’ … they don’t go out in public arm in arm.

Yes, some crossdressers may begin with private and experimental sessions, and over time realise that they’ve developed a desire to feel more feminine, or experience life as a woman, but again, it’s not a structured route that all fetishists or crossdressers must follow. We’ll look at this area in more detail in Part 2 of my article, which should be published in about a week.

Now, to complicate things further, the transgender person became a recent target for some people to ogle and point an accusing finger. How rapidly we as a race are developing—we now have a growing trend in society for sub-genders. We’ve reached a point where children (under 18), are being given counselling about their personal gender preference.

As you’ll now have gathered, if you didn’t already know, there is considerable scope in this area for the creative writer.

If you have an opinion, please leave a comment?


In the second part of this article, I’ll briefly examine sexuality.

Sexual fulfilment and preference of partner are gained on an individual level—it’s not pre-programmed as a standard for every human being.